Free hypnosis track to release negative feelings

Free hypnosis track to release negative feelings

I don’t think any of us expected to be living in the reality we find ourselves in now. It’s an unfamiliar and uncertain time and I know for many people the combination of the health situation, being inside more with our own thoughts and not being able to be with loved ones is a cocktail for negative emotions.

In times of uncertainty, worries and fears can feel like they’re really strong and close, almost like they’re pressing down on us. If you’ve been feeling like that recently, please know this is completely normal. I’ve been feeling this way too and have been using self-hypnosis to help me shift my mind to a more positive place.

I have created a guided hypnosis track for you, which you can play free of charge from this page, below. It includes a metaphor for releasing negative feelings, absorbing positive ones and for creating a special protective layer around you that will help to keep your positive mindset going through the weeks ahead.

Health and safety notice: Guided trance recordings are not recommended for those with epilepsy, as in rare cases trance work can bring on seizures. Do not listen to this whilst driving or operating machinery. Thank you.

Press play to begin your guided hypnosis

You are welcome to share this page far and wide. We could all do with a little less negativity and a little more positivity right now!

Take care of you and stay well.

Gemma x

Every day I was told that I wasn’t good enough

Every day I was told that I wasn’t good enough

The true story of my imposter syndrome – more honest than ever before

It was December 2013 and I was aged 28. I had been working as a PR Manager for an international and highly-regarded organisation for almost three years and had a lovely content marketing team of three. I knew what I was doing and though there were the usual corporate challenges I was generally a happy worker bee. But then an opportunity came up in the organisation to interview for my manager’s role and become the head of the marketing department (a team of about 14 in total looking after everything from the TV ad campaigns to the call centre).

I had been brought up to apply myself and be grateful for good opportunities, so it didn’t even occur to me not to apply. I interviewed, got the job, and then it was Christmas so I had an unhelpful amount of time to think… and stew… and listen to the increasingly loud voice inside my head telling me I wasn’t good enough to do it. I went to Next and bought a suit, because I thought that would make me feel the part. It didn’t. I spent the week between Christmas and New Year trying to work out what computational error must have been made for me to be given the role. Despite getting very positive feedback about my interview I settled on the conclusion that they must have been desperate. Even though I had been told that they were confident in my abilities based on what I’d demonstrated on the job, and that they were happy to train me up on anything else, I decided I had to be perfect from day one or they’d realise they’d made a mistake.

Inevitably that meant I entered the office the first day back in January (wearing my new ill-fitted suit) filled from head to toe with anxiety. I called the first team meeting and sat there assuming everyone was thinking to themselves “Why on earth have they made her manager? I can’t wait to see her mess this up.” I projected doubt on their faces and cynicism in their voices (I know now that neither was true). I worked every hour there was to prove to myself and others that I was worthy of my title. I lost who I was as Gemma outside of work and became obsessed with over delivering on what was expected of me, to create a little good will for when they eventually worked out I was a total fraud. My imposter syndrome was absolutely wild – every day I told myself I wasn’t good enough and too many nights I cried from the pressure I’d put on myself.

Despite great appraisals, positive feedback from regional offices around the world and stacks of evidence that I was doing a good job, I just couldn’t get past the voice in my head that said I was going to get caught out. 11 months later I left the role and the organisation, as the internal battle with myself had worn me out. My imposter syndrome had won. It was nothing to do with the company, it was all me.

Over the six years since, the thoughts inside my head have made quite the transformation. Thanks to cognitive hypnotherapy I now understand the positive intention behind my unconscious thoughts. I now know that just because I have a thought that I’m not good enough that doesn’t make it true. I understand that I was strengthening the power of my inner critic by letting the same negative thought-signals run back and forth in my mind. I learned some amazing NLP (neuro-linguistic programming) techniques to transform those thoughts and feelings and I learned about the power of embodiment and how being hunched over my desk in an ill-fitting suit was doing me no good whatsoever!

Not only do I now feel confident in my Head of Marketing role, but I also enjoy the person I am outside of work far more too. I feel free of the fear that I’m going to be caught out and know I have earned the position I now find myself in. I believe in myself and know that uncertainty and mistakes are learning opportunities and not directly connected to my self worth. And, best of all, I get to be a Cognitive Hypnotherapist and Mindset Coach that helps my peers to make similar transformations.

That’s why I created the special online masterclass that I’m running on 28th January on Transforming Imposter Syndrome, because I don’t want you to have to waste all the years I did listening to an inner critic that isn’t serving you well. I want you to have unstoppable self-worth, and the pathway to that is to transform your imposter syndrome once and for all. If you can relate to my story, is it time to take action now so you can feel free too?

I’d love to have you there. Visit the website for all the details and to book one of the few available spaces.

The 5-step formula to fulfilment

The 5-step formula to fulfilment

Who doesn’t want a fulfilled life? My bet is that no-one would opt for an unfulfilled life if they felt they had a choice. In my experience, there are two common reasons people don’t live fulfilled lives. The first is that current circumstances are genuinely too challenging and simply surviving each day is everything that’s possible. But the second, for those who don’t live in those extreme situations and do have capacity to make change, is that people don’t know the steps to take to get started.

The Fulfilment Five is my formula that you can use to help you get started on your track to more fulfilled living.

Step 1: accept responsibility

Only you know which of the above two circumstances is true for you. The vast majority of us live in the second camp and either don’t know how or haven’t taken the time to really invest in ourselves. Most of us could create the time we need to develop ourselves if we were to prioritise our own wellbeing over other things. The first step to living a fulfilled life is knowing and believing that you are the only person who can create fulfilment for yourself. Anything that anyone else does on your behalf will only have a surface level impact on your life and the little glow it gave you will fade away in time. Only when you accept that the key to your happiness is in your hands and is based on the decisions you make and the way you respond to and create your world, will you be on track to genuine and sustainable fulfilment.

Step 2: know what you want

Once you’ve decided to take control of your destiny, the next step is to understand what you want, and you need to be specific. Vague ideas and loose goals will not get you where you want to be – and that, I am assuming, is living a fulfilled and happy life. So, ask yourself, if you were truly fulfilled and living your life as your best self, what would your life look like? What would you be spending your time and energy on? How would you be engaging with others? What would you be achieving? If this is hard to envisage, it can help to look at it the other way. If you were in your rocking chair, old and happy at the end of your rich and satisfying life, what would you be looking back on and be proud to have done? Again, be specific. You’re looking to build a picture of a ‘future you’ that will act like a beacon to guide you forward.

Step 3: identify barriers

Now, assuming you’ve always wanted to be happy and fulfilled, there are reasons (beyond not knowing the first steps to take) why you haven’t achieved what you truly want so far. It’s now time to identify the perceived barriers to your fulfilment. The first things many of us think about here are financial or time limitations, which are important ones to consider. But if time and money were not limited, is there anything else that could be holding you back? As an example, are you surrounded by a supportive network of cheerleaders or are there doubters that you need to face/ignore? Identify all the possible barriers to you achieving what will make you feel fulfilled and then decide what action you can take to eradicate or minimise each barrier. It may be that you hold limiting beliefs about yourself as the result of a past experience that holds you back at a more unconscious level. If you think that might be the case then consider having an exploratory chat with a Cognitive Hypnotherapist who can help.

Step 4: feed your strengths

I have found both personally and through working with my clients that one of the most effective ways to live a more fulfilling life is to identify your character strengths and then fuel them on a regular basis. There is a great, free 15-minute scientific survey of character strengths. It is a central tool of positive psychology and identifies the core qualities that come most naturally to you and make up the unique individual that you are. There are 24 strengths and through this survey you can gain a unique character profile that will rank the strengths in order of their significance to you. Character strengths fall into six categories which are wisdom, courage, humanity, justice, temperance and transcendence. Once you know your top strengths you have the key to what makes your heart sing. Do things that feed those strengths regularly and you’ll notice your wellbeing improve considerably. I was amazed at how many of my top character strengths I’d been abandoning before I trained as a therapist and learned about this stuff – it was no wonder I felt so flat!

Step 5: create new habits

The key to sustainable change is to create new positive habits that nudge you forwards to becoming the person you want to be, in small steps, every day. These don’t have to be huge life changes, in fact they need to be small enough to be possible but big enough to make a difference. Simple habits, built through repeated and consistent actions add up to incredible changes. Ultimately, results (and what we’re looking for here is a fulfilled and happy you) are defined by the choices you make each day. And consistency is key to shifting an act from a conscious one to an unconscious one. Once a habit becomes something you do unconsciously it’s so much easier to keep it up. Identify the positive habits that will help you achieve your goals and feed your strengths and enjoy the changes they bring.

If you’ve got to this point in the article then you’ve already acknowledged that the responsibility for your fulfilment lies with you and you’ve invested time in reading this and working out the formula to get you there. Follow these steps wholeheartedly and create the life you deserve.

If you’d like to discuss how my 1:1 online coaching programme could help you accelerate your way to fulfilled living, send me a message and we’ll arrange a time to chat.