My OCD became my superpower

My OCD became my superpower

Gemma Holmes Cognitive Hypnotherapy OCDBetween the ages of 5 and 10, I had two phases of being controlled by OCD. The one I remember the most seemed to be triggered by the misinterpretation I made about what my Sunday School teacher had told me. I am sure these weren’t her words, but what I took as the meaning went along the lines of “If you don’t like everyone you are a bad person… and bad people go to hell”. There was someone at the time that I did not like. I cannot remember for the life of me who that person was, but it clearly concerned me greatly that I had bad feelings towards someone and was therefore doomed to join all other bad people in the devil’s fiery pit.

Over time, this concern began to plague my thoughts and actions and resulted in obsessive hand washing and daily rituals. The OCD I experienced was unfortunately not the tidying type – I lived in a very messy room with a ‘floordrobe’ of clothes, but rather I had to tighten all the taps before I went to sleep to stop the house from flooding, and I had to say good night to each member of my family in exactly the same way. I suspect the hand washing was an attempt to cleanse myself of the bad thoughts, the rest an attempt to control everything around me so that I wasn’t a bad person who could cause the world to crumble.

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My January, not Dry January!

My January, not Dry January!

If you’re anything like me, you’ll have a few less pounds in the bank and a few more on your belly than you did at the start of December. You’ll be craving your chocolate fix by 10am but cannot bear to see a mince pie again for at least another 10 months. You’ll wish you could click your fingers and have all the Christmas decorations packed away, and you’ll be confused at how you can still feel tired, even after so much time off work.

It’s a cold, gloomy and typically moist (sorry, damp, for those with a strange hatred for the ‘m’ word) month, and the next bank holiday is so far away it’s not even a dot on the horizon. So, what next? You could make a list of grand New Year’s resolutions, which according to Dr Richard Wiseman and his research team you’re only 12% likely to achieve. You could channel your inner Eeyore and mope around for the next 27 days. You could ban yourself from drinking anything containing a percentage…. ooooor instead of Dry Jan, you could try My Jan!

And I don’t actually mean mine, I mean yours. A whole month dedicated to what makes your heart happy. What might that look like?

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